Skill and competence in biblical counseling, like in any other discipline, rest on a firm grasp of the basic elements of discipleship. Formal biblical counseling involves utilizing six key elements: Data gathering, building a relationship (involvement), determining ministry needs, ministering the Word, communicating hope, and implementing homework. In this series of articles, we will go […]

In 1 John 2:15 the apostle John gives the very first command of the entire epistle: “Do not love the world or the things in the world.” John doesn’t tell the church right off the bat what they should or shouldn’t do, but rather what they should and shouldn’t love. John cuts right to the […]

In Same Sex Attraction and the Gospel – Part 1, we worked through some of the benefits of the gospel. The wise counselor will also be faithful to discuss the demands of the Gospel. As Dietrich Bonhoeffer said, “When Christ calls a man, he bids him come and die.” To the church in Colossae Paul […]

Helping men with unwanted Same Sex Attraction (S.S.A.) in the church begins by understanding how prone humans are to being deceived by our desires. According to Scripture, “we all formerly lived in the lusts of our flesh, indulging the desires of the flesh and of the mind” (Ephesians 2:3). This is particularly true of men […]

The image will forever be burned into my memory. It was one of the strangest things I had ever seen. My nine-year-old twins and I were sitting in the lobby of the local university waiting for swim team practice to begin. On the television was one of those wildlife programs that children (and their dads) […]

One of the tasks of the biblical counselor is to be equipped and prepared to minister the Scriptures to those allotted to his care. He must be a student of the Word. He must be diligent to study and know the meaning of the Scriptures (e.g., 2 Timothy 2:15) and he must know how to […]

In a culture characterized by conflict, chaos, conspiracy theories, coronavirus, and more, what happens if we lose sight of the faithfulness of God? Jerry Bridges answers this as he writes: “For most of us, life is filled with frustrations, anxieties, and disappointments that tempt us to fret, fume, and worry. One author has aptly captured […]

A fully biblical understanding of man—that we are at the same time humble creatures and redeemed divine image-bearers—can help rescue believers from the two “ditches” of self-regard. Ditch 1: Self-Exaltation A phenomenon that can be traced at least as far back as ancient Greece, has to do with the idea that self-understanding is the key […]

A few days ago, I took on a needed maintenance job at my home—clearing some tree stumps from our vegetable garden and yard. I naively thought I would be able to finish the job in an hour or so. I underestimated the job by three or four hours. I started with a hatchet and shovel. […]

In biblical counseling, homework refers to assignments that are given to the counselee each week that facilitate growth and biblical encouragement between sessions. Counselors recognize that true change will happen with counselees when they are pursuing God’s solutions throughout the week, not just during the session. Yet, many counselors struggle to craft and implement homework […]